DH and I took a little time conceving our first monster, so immediately started working on producing the 2nd. More than a year down the line and nothing had happened, so roll on the tests… Results come in and the advice is pretty clear, so few swimmers that without ivf our family would never be completed.

Just as we get our heads round this and get on with living happily as a family of three, the most beautiful suprise comes along. Two blue lines! And, nine months later, with a pregnancy and labour filled with problems there was the arrival of our little girl.

Of course, throughout this time of trying before her arrival, other friends became pregnant with their second child and each time it hurt a little more. Although one of these friends sadly continued to fall at the first hurdle and suffer with repeated miscarriages. Each time she got that positive result I was so happy for her. We had met when our boys were around a year old so we had missed out on being pregnant and having little babies together, and that would have been so nice.

Knowing the pain of infertility I knew if there was anything I could do to help I would, but didn’t think there was anything more constructive than a shoulder to cry on. When she mentioned that in fact it looked as though there was another option I jumped at the chance.

Her last two lost embryos had been tested and come back with too many chromosones, most likely a factor of her age.

The answer = donor eggs.

The wait in the UK = 2-3 years.

The alternative = travelling abroad and paying for an unknown donor

At 28, with two healthy little people here was my chance to help. So, the offer was made, and immediately accepted. Of course further thoughts and issues have come up along the way, but luckily have so far all been met with agreement on both our parts. We would both like to be completely open with our little ones from an early age and have both our families grow, with the children all gaining a pair of ‘cousins’

So, here it all begins. With a fear of needles and all things medical, this could get pretty interesting alnog the way. Wish us luck, I’m sure there’s many times we’ll need it πŸ™‚

The cast :

hobbesy = me

dh = darling (mostly πŸ™‚ )husband

T & E = our littlies (T = boy, E = baby girl)

drownedgirl / dg = my friend in need of an egg or two

mr dg = good friend’s other half

C = dg’s little man, a monster like my own

MrR = the man we hope will be our consultant


8 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Essex Girl  |  March 19, 2007 at 1:27 pm

    HI there

    I am aware of your story from the Fertility Friends board, and you know of mine. I have now found your blog. I did think of doing one myself but am not that technological.

    What you and my sister are doing is amazing and you are real stars for going through all that you do just for people like DG and me.

    Will be thinking of you and following your story with interest.

    love Essex Girl

  • 2. hobbesy  |  March 19, 2007 at 1:52 pm

    Thank you so much,

    I hope things are going well for you and your sister. We still have a little way to go to catch up πŸ™‚

    K -x-

  • 3. thedrownedgirl  |  March 19, 2007 at 8:51 pm

    I’m watching your progress with interest on FF, EG.


  • 4. Ang  |  March 22, 2007 at 3:41 pm

    Good luck with the process ladies!
    I was petrified of needles before i donated and even when i took my children for their injections i couldnt watch so i was dreading that part of the process.
    Do you know what????? i injected myself the first day and felt so chuffed with myself!! i really felt proud and i feel like i got so much out of the process too!

  • 5. hobbesy  |  March 22, 2007 at 3:46 pm

    Thank you, it really means a lot. I hope you’re right about the injections! My wobbles about them come and go at this stage, but in the end I know I will just get on with it because we have to

    K -x-

  • 6. H  |  April 2, 2007 at 3:28 pm

    Have my fingers crossed for you ! x

  • 7. hobbesy  |  April 2, 2007 at 5:08 pm

    Thank you, As we have for you. Nothing I can say is going to make tomorrow any easier, but I’ll be holding on to that glimmer of hope for you until I hear otherwise. K -x-

  • 8. Elly Russell  |  August 24, 2007 at 8:00 pm

    Hi there – thanks for your link guys, I’ve put one right back to you from Maybe Baby πŸ™‚

    I haven’t had a chance to read your blog yet but I’m going to sit down and catch up as your story looks interesting.

    Wishing you all the best, may your dreams come true


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